A Brief Guide to Jewish Mourning Practices

As your caring community, we would like to let you know some of the ways that Stephen Wise Temple may offer you support during a time of mourning.

  • The first 30 days of mourning are known as Sheloshim. Kaddish can be recited daily. At Wise we invite you to join us for our Thursday morning minyan (during the school year), our Friday night services (where you may stand and recite Kaddish with and supported by your community), and our Shabbat morning minyan.
  • In the Ashkenazi tradition, the first year of mourning culminates in an unveiling at the grave site (usually during the 11th month) where the grave marker is dedicated. A clergy member at Wise can assist with that brief ritual or you may conduct the unveiling on your own.
  • In the Persian tradition a large memorial service is usually held on the 30th day after the burial. A clergy member at Wise can assist in arranging such a memorial on the Wise campus with help from our staff.
  • During the first year, mourners may continue their recitation of the Kaddish. In addition, the Jewish festivals of Pesach, Shavuot, and Sukkot have associated Yizkor services where it is customary for mourners to come and recite the Kaddish. There is a service at Wise for each of those holidays and we encourage you to attend. Click here to view our service schedule.

  • Upon the conclusion of the first year of mourning it is customary to attend the Yizkor services (in perpetuity) as indicated above as a way to offer continuing tribute to your loved one.

If you have any questions, we invite you to contact us. Our clergy are ready and willing to offer you guidance as you experience your loss and continue to move toward healing.
Phone: 310.476.8561 • Email: Clergy@WiseLA.org

For more about Jewish traditions of mourning, visit www.shiva.com/learning-center.

Hamakom Y’nachem – May God grant you comfort.